These three books have been very helpful for a bunch of clients, and if you feel like one might fit your situation, check it out. They seem to do a pretty good job of validating the spouse’s experience, while also giving hope and compassion and ideas for moving forward. Find the books on Amazon here:
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NOTE: Asperger’s is no longer the correct technical term for that end of the autism spectrum, although some people with Autism Spectrum Disorder still prefer it. This particular book is several years old.
Jonathan & Elizabeth Trotter 