The Stoplight Tool

The idea is pretty simple. First, think about the signs that show that you are doing well in that area. How do you know you’re in the green? What does your friend or partner see when you’re in this color? And then, what are the things that help you to STAY in that color? Keep doing those things.

What are signs that you’re in yellow? What starts to happen when you’re trending in a direction you don’t want to go? The idea is to notice these things earlier than maybe you have in the past. And then, what are some things you might want to think about doing (or stop doing) that would help nudge you back to green?

And then the last one. What are the signs that things are really running hot? That you’re really struggling or not doing well? What are some things that maybe you don’t normally do, but that you might really want to do (or stop doing) that would get you moving back toward the healthy green?

It’s not rocket science, but when we’re really struggling with something, we don’t need rocket science. We need simple. We need straightforward. We need pre-planned.

Filling this out gives you a cheat sheet when you need it. When you’re trending towards red, you’re probably also forgetting all the helpful things. But if you’ve written them down, if you’ve shared them with a friend, partner, or ally, then you can look back, remember, and then maybe implement.

Hope that’s helpful out there, y’all! Take care, and happy Thursday!

Jonathan T.

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I’ve been using these concepts for a few years now, but I finally got around to creating a handout/worksheet for The Stoplight Tool. I’ve used this with folks dealing with OCD, depression, anxiety, and even adult ADHD. If you’d like to use this in your practice or ministry, would you consider purchasing the PDF for $2.99 here? Drop your email address in the comments when paying and I’ll send you the file. Thanks!

My Sex Life Died on the Field {Velvet Ashes}

This week I’m at Velvet Ashes. The title kind of says it all, I guess. It’s a brand new story I’ve never told. But if you’ve been following my journey the past few years, I think this post will weave together a lot of the strands of things I *have* written about: anxiety, depression, dance, PMS, being underweight, etc.

As scary as it is to talk about, Jonathan and I decided together that it was time to start being more open about this difficult season in our life and to maybe, just maybe, be able to offer hope to others in dark seasons of their own.

I don’t know where you are today, but wherever that is, I hope that you will be as gentle with your own story as you are with mine. And if healing is what you need today, what I want you to know is that God wants to walk with you into healing, whatever that journey might look like for you.

Grace and peace, Elizabeth

Episode 3: Anxiety and OCD

In this episode, Jonathan and Elizabeth discuss their experiences with anxiety and OCD, what helped, what didn’t, and why there’s hope.

Listen in via iTunes, Stitcher, or below.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

Brainlock, by Schwartz

Loving Someone With Anxiety, by Thieda

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

The Anxiety Cure, by Hart

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life, by Amen

What to do When Your Brain Get’s Stuck; a Kids Guide to Overcoming OCD

It’s Not All in Your Head

For a list of counseling centers that serve cross-cultural workers, visit the Resource page on A Life Overseas.

For more from Elizabeth for Velvet Ashes, on fear.