
There’s a lot of guidance out there for young homeschool moms. It’s an adventure a lot of families try in the early years. But sometimes homeschooling is only for a season. Not every family keeps homeschooling all the way through high school, and that’s fine. It’s actually part of the beauty and adaptability of homeschooling. But having fewer moms to turn to for advice can make the teen years a little harder to navigate.
So when I speak with moms who are nervous about homeschooling high school — whether their kids are in middle school or even in upper elementary school — I tell them two things. [For context, my two oldest have graduated already, my third child is in the middle of her senior year, and my fourth child just started her freshman year in high school.]
First of all, your student should be working at their level in every subject. Academically speaking, where are they right now? Figure that out, and then build from there. They can’t write a five-paragraph theme if they can’t write a good paragraph, and there’s no use wishing they’re in algebra when they’re actually in pre-algebra.
I credit this wisdom to Lee Binz in her booklet How to Homeschool 9th and 10th Grade. The concept seems so simple, but when I first came across it, it was revolutionary.
So don’t freak out if your child is “behind” or needs to catch up on something. The truth is, they are where they are, just as you are where you are. In your housework. In your finances. In your relationships. In your faith walk. And your child is where he or she is. In math, in history, in reading, in writing, in science. There’s no changing what is.
But our job isn’t merely to assess. It’s to sketch out a workable plan for improving their skills and growing on their educational journey. We had a homemade poster in our schoolroom in Cambodia that read, “All learning happens one step at a time.” It had the image of a staircase on it, and we pasted a single puzzle piece at the bottom to represent the step-wise nature of learning.
We can’t rush our students to the next level, but we can encourage incremental change in each area. We want them to become lifelong learners, just as we want to be lifelong learners alongside them.
[I feel a grammar school song coming on here — “Inch by inch, row by row, I’m gonna make this garden.” But I digress.]
The second thing I tell moms is that a student’s daily time investment increases significantly in high school. They need to be working much of the day. This may come as a surprise to students (and moms) who’ve been accustomed to completing all their work in the morning, so you may have to require more of them than before.
Ideally their work load was stepped up slowly during middle school so that by the time they get to high school, they’re ready. But if the time commitment still comes as a surprise, you can use 9th grade as a stepping stone to all-day studying.
There’s a yay and a yuck to these guiding principles. It’s a relief to simply accept where a student is in each subject and to know that you can and should continue tailoring their education to their needs and abilities. It can also feel like a challenge when they start studying more hours in the day — for both them and for you.
We need the grace to make slow, steady progress starting where we are and also to accept that high school is going to take longer than homeschool used to. But you absolutely can homeschool in high school if that’s still what your family wants to do. It just looks different from the little years.
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SEE ALSO:
Two Challenges That Homeschooling Families Face on the Field (article at A Life Overseas)
The Hats We Wear: Reflections on Life as a Woman of Faith (my new book, with sections on marriage, motherhood, and homeschooling)
BONUS: Transcript Tips
I find that moms are usually pretty nervous about the dreaded transcript, but it doesn’t have to be too intimidating. The important thing is to start keeping records early. That way when it’s time to apply to college or university, you don’t have to scramble to create a transcript.
You can find different resources online to help you plan your student’s four years of high school, but whatever you do, remember to record it each year. For me this took the form of some Excel spreadsheets (I’m still an engineer at heart!) and a single Word doc.
The Word doc kept all the course descriptions, including the name of each class, what curriculum I used, and how I assigned grades for each class. (Deciding how to assign grades and which grading scale to use is an article of its own.) You may or may not need these course descriptions for college applications, but it helps keep you organized and on track during high school.
Each year I used an Excel spreadsheet to keep track of my student’s assignments in each class, with a separate tab for each subject (math, science, language arts, history, etc). This meant that by 12th grade, each child had four spreadsheets, one for each year of high school, each with their own subjects tabs. (Did I mention that each child also had their own folder on my desktop?)
In addition, I dedicated a separate spreadsheet to their transcript, this one with four tabs to record the final grades for each subject in each year (which had been calculated in the other spreadsheet) and a fifth tab for the actual transcript (you can find templates online for how to structure those). I used those grade-level tabs (9th, 10th, 11th, 12th) to calculate their GPA and cumulative GPA, which — I won’t lie — can be a pain in the neck sometimes.
I updated the transcript at the end of every school year (or sometimes, if I’m being honest, right before the next school year began) so that by the time we were ready to apply to colleges, I just had to make a few cosmetic adjustments, print to PDF, and sign the thing.
The moral of the story here is: If you start early on the transcript, you will greatly reduce your stress in the long run.


